just ignore em and they will get bored and fuck off, don't give em the reaction they are hoping for!

I agree in spirit. Sadly, this doesn't work because even if the model ignores an abusive jerk, others in the room feel the need to defend their sweety, and this fuels the abuser. (Nothing wrong with defending your friends; just saying in practice it doesn't work too well.)
Which is why I wish there were more tools available to models to control their rooms:
1) allowing/disallowing whisper (even on a per-person basis, membership level, whatever)
2) ability to "squelch" a jerk. That is, if someone is being an idiot, the model should be able to turn off his/her ability to speak -- with out the jerk knowing. Then he truly will be ignored, because only he will see what he types and no one else.
And so on.
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